Women have always judged each other – whether you keep it to yourself or you share with another – and they always will. But hasn’t it all just seemed to have gotten a little worse since you were back at school? Instead of teasing you on not having the latest trendy shoes or just generally not being one of the ‘cool’ kids, it’s talking behind your back because you’re not up to their standards or, well, again not being one of the ‘cool’ adults and it can apply to you whether it’s being in your personal life or your workplace. The only difference is that as an adult you tend to be a lot more stronger at fighting off the odd comment or two – unless you’re like me and take everything to heart – and that if someone upsets you you can just choose not to be around them. Unless it’s in the workplace.
As a child I would always get upset and always knew that I just didn’t fit in but I knew that once I got older I wouldn’t have the teasing anymore. I remember the one time my so-called friend was threating to push me after school for something probably minor and obviously as a child you worry and think everyone hates you when in actual fact people only stand behind the bully because it’s better than standing in front of them waiting to be picked on. After school I remember walking so slow through the playground hoping she would just run ahead and go home but she didn’t. She ran up to me and pushed me and even though it didn’t hurt and it wasn’t much of a push I started crying. I cried because I felt angry I didn’t stand up to her. But as an adult it’s different.
As an adult it can be hard sometimes, especially if it’s in the workplace. Women are still fairly new to the workplace environment and also the competition therein. Maybe the understanding of competition and how we deal with it was mistakenly took for how we felt with contests for social power back at school. As a budding blogger who is still trying to get my foot in the door I still currently work in retail. I’ve worked in retail before but this is the first time I’ve worked in an army camp and let me tell you the women here are worse and I’m not talking about my colleagues. I’m talking about the army wives. Now not all of them are the same but you do get the bitchy clicky groups that stick together judging the other wives. Before working here I never thought I would generally feel like I would ever be back at school until I started here. They judge, they criticise, they moan about others and they also judge what you wear. But we should all ensure that we keep the gossips and bitchy comments to turning into bullying.
Being around this type of atmosphere and also having my own problems it just makes me hate being a woman. As a woman I do prefer hanging out with the guys because it’s less drama and if anything bad is said it’s all down to banter. I hate how women can make other women feel and I do just think we all need to be a little more supportive of our fellow kind. I know there will be women that just simply don’t get along but that doesn’t mean you need to be nasty. Have you ever been complimented by another woman whether you know them or if they’re complete strangers? Maybe she said she liked your top or your hair looks amazing or that she thinks you’re funny or smart. How did that make you feel? It made you feel amazing right? Pass it on.
I know in the workplace it can be difficult, especially if you’re in a small team but why waste your energy on a person you don’t seem to get on with? Do your own thing and live your own life without bringing others down. It’s time us women supported each other…or avoid them at all costs. Either way seems perfectly normal.