We all do it. Maybe a few times a month or maybe even a few times a week. We’re all guilty of doing it. Comparing ourselves to others is one of the easiest and quickest ways to make us all feel bad. Whether it’s about comparing accomplishments, making more capital, becoming attractive or even having a bigger friend groups, were always tempted by what other people have.
Truthfully, I look at the people around me and wish that I did have more money, that I had a job to be proud of, have my dream career, look more attractive and to be more confident. Being envious of others and what they have is just simply how some (or most) of us think. But being envious is rarely about wanting to be another person but in fact idealizing the aspects of that person.
So when you really think about it, instead of wanting to be someone else, you just want aspects of their lives. We’re always told that comparing ourselves to others is such a bad idea but what if it wasn’t? Maybe knowing that you want certain aspects in life could actually turn into goals. Why can’t I have more money just like this person or why can’t I become more confident just like that person?
Now I know January is nearly coming to an end (way too fast for my liking) but what I haven’t told anybody, until today, is my New Years Resolutions. What I would like to do this year is take all of my comparisons and turn them into goals. This year, I will get another job so I can earn more money and save for my future. I will also try my hardest to get into Journalism or maybe get on the right path and have the chance to inspire people. I will also try my hardest to be confident, especially when I’m feeling the most nervous, scared or just plain shy. And for being attractive, I’m just going to make sure I’m happy with myself. I’m not going to let comparisons ruin my life. I have my flaws but I also have the chance to discover my gifts.
We’re all going to want something that little bit more and we’re never going to be happy with ourselves. But when you actually realise your going to waste your life trying to be someone your not then it seems pretty pointless. Make the changes you want because it will benefit YOU!
Why not start now? What do you want to achieve this year?
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