As an introvert, I may seem totally biased on why you should spend time with yourself but it can do more good than not. Just you, your thoughts, your favourite hobbies or anything you want to do without interruptions, opinions or pressure from anyone else. It’s a great way to not only relax but to also spend time with the person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with; yourself.
“I like being alone. I have control over my own space. Therefore, in order to win me over, your presence has to be better than my solitude. You’re not competing with another person, you are competing with my comfort zone.” – Horacio Jones
Personally, as someone who is reserved (commonly mistaken for shyness), an over-thinker, enjoys solitude, is self-aware and whose energy is completely drained if I spend all day, or a few days with other people, I do tell myself to at least spend 1-2 days a week in someone’s else’s company just to have a balance. It’s ok to have a day to yourself and if you hate it then I suggest you give it a go. Not convinced? Here are a few reasons on why you should spend more time with yourself – coming from an introvert.
Get to know yourself. Constantly being around other people and not wanting to spend time with yourself can be difficult to know who you really are and although most avoid this for that exact reason, it’s best to know who you are and what you stand for because, at the end of the day, you’re stuck with you for the rest of your life. For me, I love reading, writing and just having ‘me time’ helps me to relax, unwind and try to be stress-free. Even if it’s spending an evening having a long soak in the bath and doing something you love, it keeps you connected and true to yourself.
Love yourself. Ever heard the saying, ‘if you don’t love yourself how will someone else?’ Well, although I hate that saying, the loving yourself part is true. Like I’ve mentioned, you’re spending the rest of your life with yourself so learning how to enjoy your own time will eventually allow yourself to be happy. I’ve always preferred my own company growing up and still now so making friends was difficult for me and my family would always call me a hermit because I never left my bedroom and honestly, I used to hate it because what’s wrong with chilling out with yourself? Looking back, I’m so glad I did that because even at a young age it allowed me to develop and find out the things I liked and now, I will never compromise any of that, especially my own happiness.
Do what you love. Recently mentioned in my morning and evening ‘how to do it right’, I’ve talked about doing what you love because well, why wouldn’t you? Want to spend all day in bed watching Netflix and scoffing on food? Want to read that book that’s been sat on your bedside table for weeks? Want to start your own project but just haven’t had the time? Well, now you can! Spending time with yourself means you can do whatever the fuck you want and there’s no one to tell you otherwise. I grew up writing, drawing and reading and it’s made me realise that I want a career in writing. Give it a go.
Listen to yourself. A very important point here but spending time with yourself, even if it is once or twice a week, will give you time to listen to yourself and rely on yourself. The worst thing anyone could ever do is rely on other people because we all know that that isn’t 100% safe and secure. Being independent will give you the ability to go out and experience life, enjoy your own company and of course, be part of your growing process. Only you know what’s best for you so why not hone it in and find out exactly what that is?
Accepting that spending time with yourself is as beneficial as spending time with others will only help you in the long run, both in your personal and professional life.
Anyone else feel totally drained and need to spend at least three days by yourself after socialising? Or maybe you’re the complete opposite…comment below.